Who and how we make friends is arbitrary in one way, but in another I believe we draw them toward us. While lots has been discussed and said about Oliver over the last couple of days since his sudden and untimely death I felt a desire to verbalise his impact on me. Apart from stating the obvious, that I shall miss him, and put in as a succinct way as possible….. He enabled me to see my own strengths.
We formed an unusual friendship from the outside but our similarities materialised over the last few years and as I was going down into the depths of depression he provided a very real sense of being there. By this I mean, he believed in me and encouraged me through that phase to understand my place in the world and he empowered me to understand my value. Confidence is something a lot of people struggle with, but he had oodles of it, while confidence can appear as arrogance to some this he certainly was not.
So, I wish to thank Oliver for giving me confidence in myself, my abilities and what I am striving to achieve.